When a family is forced to break up, it is never a pleasant experience, no matter what the cause may be. Separation and divorce are tough on many different levels, and that is especially true if you have children. During the process, you will most likely experience a cascade of different emotions. Then there is the stress of the legal proceedings, and everything that comes attached with that process. When you have children, there is quite often a contest that takes place between the parents, and the children may find that in itself to be traumatic.
All children want to be equally loved by their parents, and they don't want to be put in the unpleasant position of having to take sides with one parent against another, except in those unfortunate cases where a parent has behaved so abominably that the choice is automatic.
None of this is meant to make you rethink your decision to separate, but to prepare you for what you are going to face. You'll have pressure put on you by all kinds of people who are either against you divorcing or in favour of it. No matter what, you should not allow anyone else to influence your decisions in this very important matter. The decisions you make should be entirely based on how you and your spouse feel about each other. If it's clearly over, then it's over. Trying to "solider on" is really just a pathway to misery for both of you, and in some cases could have even more tragic consequences.
Family law has existed in some form or other in the UK for hundreds of years, but despite this (or perhaps because of it) it is still a very complicated legal field. In fact, judges are still trying to decide what is the most fair way to handle family law cases, and many recent cases have shown increasing degrees of frustration on the part of judges with regard to their hands being tied by laws that to their minds are not entirely fair.
To the credit of the judges, though they are often targets for criticism, they really do try most of the time to achieve fair outcomes. Where it is possible for them to apply leverage to the laws to make an outcome more fair in some way, they will usually do the best they can to get the best realistically achievable result for all involved. Even so, they do sometimes get it wrong, make mistakes, or simply miss something vital that would have made a huge difference to the outcome. Quite often in the latter circumstances, it is where people have chosen to manage their own legal cases or to represent themselves in court.
Consequently anyone starting on the path towards divorce, or the dissolution of the family unit in whatever form it takes, should make their first priority to engage Family Law solicitors who can apply their specialist knowledge to helping you not suffer any undue disadvantage in the process. You can find useful information at the Solicitors Guru website.