There is nothing worse than having a “hunch” that something is wrong with your partner and not knowing what it is. You can’t quite put your finger on it, but something is most definitely wrong. All of a sudden, the two of you aren’t “in sync” anymore, and you desperately want to get to the bottom of it. We hate to say this to you, ladies and gentlemen, but is there is a chance that your partner could be cheating?

None of us want to dwell on this fact, especially those of us that have been cheated on before. Sometimes, everything could be entirely innocent – you are just in a weird patch within your relationship, and he or she is not straying away from home. However, what happens in a scenario such as this:

“I was cheated on in the past and now have a lot of insecurities about it that I fear will carry over into other relationships. How do you get over being cheated on?”

Whenever something goes wrong within a relationship and you have been cheated on before in the past, it is very simple to jump to conclusions. However, it makes perfect sense to remember that not everyone can be tarred with the same brush; just because you were cheated on before, doesn’t mean you will be cheated on again. As the big female magazine Marie Claire stated – “be careful not to appear to be paranoid!” You want to get to the bottom of it, but at the same time, you don’t want to appear overly paranoid or crazy! Remember that things may not be all that they seem.

There are a few signs that would point you to the conclusion that you are being cheated on. For example, a change in your sex life with your partner could be a warning sign. If he or she has started having less sex with you, there is a good chance that they are getting some loving elsewhere. However, if they start making MORE of an effort, and want to have sex more often, there is a good chance that they are overcompensating. Of course, you could be completely paranoid – they may be tired at work, coming down with a cold, not in the mood, or a number of other reasons. However, a serious change within your sex life that happens suddenly is usually a sign that cracks are appearing – something it is wise to get to the bottom of.

Another common sign of cheating is to adopt slightly odd behaviour when it comes to the cell phone. Is he or she suddenly becoming very secretive – hiding their cell phone, having a passcode lock so you couldn’t get in it even if you wanted to, not leaving it lying around, walking out the room when they received a text or call, getting more calls or texts than usual.... These are, again, clear warning signs. Of course, they could be planning a Christmas/Birthday/Anniversary present for you, but if the time of year doesn’t coincide, it is wise to ask if everything is Okay.

Have they got “Mentionitis?” This is a completely made up word, of course, but we have all been there; listening to someone repeatedly talking about someone else.

“Miranda did this today!”

“Miranda was off work today”

“Did you know that Miranda has a size seven shoe?”

This is never good sign within a relationship – remember how you felt when you first fell love with your current partner and all you wanted to do was gush about him  or her to the entire world? That could be where your partner is now. It might be wise to ask a few questions!

There could be something completely boring and reasonable behind the sudden change in behaviour that your partner is showing, but at the same time, they could be playing with your heart. If you have a gut feeling that something is wrong, go with it – how can you be happy with someone when you are not entirely sure of what is going on?