Sexuality: Is your manhood too small?



JUST about every man would like his penis to be that extra inch or so bigger.

Men have always tended to eye each other up nervously when they get the opportunity but the anxieties have probably got worse now that Internet pornography and sex videos are so much more widely available.

The men in those are specially selected just because they are exceptionally large, and so blokes get the feeling that is the norm when actually it is abnormal.

That said, though, a very few men do have cause for concern because they never developed properly.

Statistics for penis size vary but the latest reliable research is that the greater proportion of penises are usually around 5 cm/2 inches long when soft and range from 11.5 cm/4.6 inches to 15cm/nearly 6 inches when erect, with the average being 13 cm/5.2 inches – about the size of a large tube of toothpaste, as someone pointed out.

You shouldn't feel too bad if you notice that other men seem much larger than you when you see them in the showers or changing rooms.

For one thing, willies do tend to average out in size when it matters - that is erect - and you should bear in mind that, when you see other men's tackle, you're seeing them from a different angle - you're looking across at theirs and down at your own, which has a foreshortening effect.

And don't forget that your penis is very clever, and shrinks upwards and presses itself close up against the body for warmth and safety when you're anxious or cold - as in that changing room.

You will probably get a more cheering view of your equipment if you try looking at yourself, when you're warm and relaxed at home, in a full-length mirror, which is how others see you.

Even if you do still worry you're on the small side, it really won't spoil your love life - or your partner's satisfaction.

Women in a loving relationship aren't as conscious of penis size as men.

In fact, too large a penis causes women far more serious concerns than a small one.

When I do hear from men who say women have laughed at the size of their penis, in almost every case it is because they were having casual sex with women who barely knew them, and certainly weren't in love with them.

Casual sex is all about judging each other by physique and performance, not intensity of feelings - nor even quality of sex.

What really makes a good lover isn't size below the belt but how sensitive and sensuous, informed and imaginative you are.

Your hands, mouth and whole body matter as much if not more than your penis, and women get the most exciting sensations, not through the vagina itself but through the clitoris, which you stimulate with your hands, mouth or groin, not your penis.

If your partner complains of lack of sensation, it may well be that she has a problem, nothing to do with your anatomy.

In which case, suggest she write to me and I'll help her sort it out.

If it is your loving that is at fault, then it's not that you need to grow an extra inch but that you need to develop more skills and sensitivity as a lover.

Internet site reference: http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/deidre/sextherapy/1936415/Deidres-sex-therapy-Is-your-penis-too-small.html


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