Speed Dating – Better on paper than practice for guys







Speed dating is one of those types of dating that comes around again every few years, only for many people to realize that it really is a total waste of time and doesn’t really get you anywhere in the long run when it comes to dating. Let’s be honest about this guys and girls; how many times have you heard someone say “In those two minutes we were talking, something just clicked and I knew I wanted him/her for the rest of my life?”

Speed dating is just that – too speedy to really work. That is, of course, unless you are a particularly shallow person that bases their opinion on looks and doesn’t really care what is going on beneath this point.

The whole concept of speed dating is a good one – you meet the maximum amount of people in the shortest possible time frame, which when you think about it, does have the potential to work in some respects. However, at the same time, it is also difficult to judge someone on their entire personality from two fleeting minutes alone. How can you possibly base a decent opinion on someone that you have only just spoken to for a couple of moments? Unless you have the best one minute speech prepared that says everything about you that you want to say, you are pretty much stuffed.

The basics of speed dating are – you turn up to an event that a number of other people, preferably the same amount of boys and girls turn up at. You sit down, you have two minutes, (or a set amount of time) to talk to that person before a bell rings and the men, (usually) move around in a big circle to the next girl. If you like the person that you have just spoken to, you put a tick next to their name, and hope that they tick you for you to be matched at the end of the night.

From a girl’s perspective – it’s not a nice scenario to be in. You don’t want to sit down with a guy for two minutes, actually think you might like him only for the bell to ring, the guy moves on and you have to watch him flirt aimlessly with a whole bunch of other women. It’s like being put on trial – no one likes that really!

One particularly serious speed dating scenario that I personally encountered just a few months ago was with a girlfriend of mine that stated, “I really liked him, and then I had to sit there and watch him quite clearly have more fun with the girl that was sitting next to me, all big blonde hair and nice breasts!” Rebecca never went to speed dating again, and in all fairness, I think her confidence took somewhat of a knocking!

No girl wants to be rejected, especially very publicly as is often the case with speed dating. Perhaps rather than speed dating, it is wise for men to look at online dating instead where the rejection isn’t in front of 20/30/40 other people, and you definitely have longer than two minutes before you put a judgment on someone of the opposite sex!


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