While online dating has made finding a partner simple, there are many women over 50 who have no idea how to navigate dating sites. It may seem like an unobvious route for your generation, but if you’re able to master this new dating domain, you can actually find interesting men and get dates with them. And who knows? Among all these people, you might just find that special someone for mature dating online. All you need to do is follow these 5 steps and boom, it’s game on!
1) Don’t Set Expectations Based on What You See Online
Some men will look great online, but then you meet them in person and end up being disappointed thinking, “What happened to the one I saw online?” This mainly happens because you have expectations about how that person might be based on a profile picture or a couple of photographs. And more than often, they aren’t that person, so you’re only setting yourself up for being disappointed. What you need to do is leave out any expectations before you have actually met the man. You’ll enjoy dating a lot more this way.
2) Let Him Contact You
While there’s nothing wrong with you contacting the man first, the conversation usually tends to be fizzled. On the flipside, there have also been several successful relationships where the woman was the first to get the ball rolling. If you really like a man, it could be worth the try, but you need to make sure you don’t get too involved in whether he writes you back or not. Try to keep emails to the minimum if you want to become more than just his email pal.
3) Limit Phone Conversations
Talking to him on the phone night after night will get you nowhere. Then why not use your phone to your advantage? You should consider limiting phone conversations to no more than two before a date as this would give you the perfect opportunity to screen the man, and see if he has any deal breaker qualities. If you avoid spending time on the phone, you could end up being surprised by who shows up to meet you.
4) Meet Him in Person… But Keep it Short
So, the man sounds great on the phone. The next step is to get off the phone and meet him in person for tea or coffee. Although meeting for a meal is the usual way to go, it can be exhausting as you will have to be at your best for at least an hour or even two. If you meet at a coffee shop, you can leave as soon as you finish sipping your beverage, leaving some intrigue and mystery for next time!
5) Getting that Second Date
Just the way women turn down men who don’t fit their picture of Mr. Right, men do pretty much the same. So, if you don’t fit that picture, it’s likely that they will not approach you for a second date. However, this doesn’t mean you should be disappointed or hopeless with yourself. Instead, view every date as an opportunity to meet someone new and interesting. If the man doesn’t call or write again, move on and find someone who actually wants you in this life. Besides, you wouldn’t want to push a man to ask you out for another date!