Does the sight of someone in a uniform get you all hot under the collar? You aren’t the only one, as millions of people wish to form a relationship with a uniformed professional, whether they are in the military, if they are police officers, firemen, doctors, or even paramedics. It makes you wonder if people are attracted to the man or if it is just the uniform.
According to Psychologist and Relationship Expert, Dr. Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D., “The 'uniform' may signify that the man is able to manage life's troubles. We all want those to whom we are attached to be able to stay solid when we are a mess so that we can count on them. It spells safety and security."
For many women, they want to feel safe and secure, so it is natural that they want to believe their man can do that; and when they are with man in a uniform, it allows them to surround themselves with others who live a similar lifestyle. They are able to attend functions and cultivate a friendship with these people.
Many people who date someone in a uniform are look to these agencies and soon they feel that they are an extension of their families. For example, if you are a military wife and your husband is deployed, you will start to look at other military wives for support. If your husband is gone during the holidays, these families may invite you to join in their celebrations because they understand what you are going through.
Rachel Russo, Matchmaker and Relationship Coach, explains this behaviour:
"There is definite appeal in camaraderie. For many women, it is nice to see a man who can make a real commitment and be there for another person. Male friendships can touch a woman's heart—especially if the man has commitment-phobic tendencies. It is truly beautiful to see the growing rapport among these men, as they are often willing to put their life on the lines to protect their friends."
To ensure a strong bond between your uniformed spouse and yourself, you can apply these tips:
1. Don’t pry into work affairs.
It is normal to wonder how your partner’s day was, but you won’t want to pry into various aspects of their day because their job may require that anything that goes on at work stays at work.
2. Be flexible.
You may have to spend some nights alone, dates will be cancelled, and anniversaries and birthdays will be postponed. It isn’t because they don’t want to spend the time with you, but it is because their job will require them to be away from home at inopportune times.
3. Decode what “boys night out” really means.
Men in uniform, whether it is military, law enforcement or even a fireman, they tend to have a strong bond with their co-workers. These men put their lives on the line on a daily basis and sometimes they have to depend on their partners to keep them alive and safe.