He Had Sex with a Man – The New Girlfriend’s Dilemma






Sex these days is not as “clean-cut” as it used to be. In fact, it is downright confusing. It is no longer a taboo subject as it once was – people are now more open about their sexual preferences, whether it is with the opposite or same sex, indulging in sleeping with more than one person at a time, using toys, and even playing out favorite fantasies. With such openness about sex, it makes sense that people would get into confusing situations such as dealing with a new boyfriend that has a “history” with members of the same sex.

“My boyfriend has just told me that he has had sex with another man before. We have a very close relationship and we do have a healthy sexual relationship. I have no doubt he loves me, but I do worry about his sexuality. Is this something I should worry about?”

As you can see, the topic is more “out there” than you first may have thought, as suggested by the popular website Guyspeak.com.

So what happens when you learn about past experiences that your partner has had? Is it even that important when all of these things happened before you? Would it matter that he had a sexual past at all, or is it solely because he had sex with a member of the same sex? What bothers you more?

Jumping into a relationship both in the bedroom and out of it, is a scary time, and possibly it is the fact that this new man is worlds apart from many others – not only he is open with his sexuality and preferences; he’s open to you about it as well! That’s a good sign, regardless of whether or not you like to admit it. Most men would be too ashamed to speak up of his previous encounters with another male, so the fact that he is telling you should be a sign of good things to come, and not bad. If he had something to hide, he would have kept it from you in the first place – men know that planting a seed into a female’s mind is a dangerous game to play. In reality, he is just being honest.

Just think of how many times you have fantasized about sleeping with someone of the same sex. Would you give anyone a right to judge you because of what you thought about? The fact that you haven’t done is neither here nor there; sex is about having fun and enjoying the experiences our bodies let us have. If we all went around talking about the things that went on in our heads all the time, most of us would probably be locked up.

When it comes to dealing with a new partner that has had experiences or even relationships with a same sex partner, it pays to be open minded. Sex isn’t a closed off subject as it was only a few short years ago, and there is a good chance that many of the partners that you have had before may even have had the same experiences – perhaps they just weren’t honest and open enough about it. Maybe look at this situation as a good thing – if he is open enough to sleep with men, just think of the possibilities your sex life has to offer. At the end of the day, nothing is stopping you from having an opinion on the situation in hand, but it pays to make sure that you have the right end of the stick. He is with YOU now – not them, whoever “them” may be – just because he had sex with a man before doesn’t mean that he is going to do it while he is with you. His sexuality, for right now at least, is focused on you and you should enjoy this. If the situation changes in the future, you will have to deal with it, but for the right now, you can’t kick someone to the kerb just because of their past.

 


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