Happily Married Men Provide Real Reasons for Visiting Sex Workers

We all know how an awkward teenager might visit a prostitute on a quest to lose his virginity or how a bored single guy would prefer to spend his money on sex workers than stress himself going on actual dates with a girl. Buthere is that age-old question again. Why do happily married men visit sex workers?  In an attempt to make some sense of it, SheSaid interviewed sixteen men, a couple of whom were married, asking them for reasons why they visited sex workers. Here are some of the interesting replies from married men.

  • For Some Men, it's Just Harmless Fun

Craig, a 51-year-old man, quoted on shesaid, wrote, “I occasionally frequent sex workers, even as a happily married man.

There is a certain freedom that comes with a sex worker that does not come with a partner. I absolutely do not condone treating sex workers as objects, but I do treat the services they provide as a commodity. I think about it like renting a car as opposed to buying one. With a rented car, you can run the engine a bit more ragged. It allows you to indulge in a way you wouldn’t be able to normally, and when you’re done, you can walk away with no worries about attachment.

Do I feel guilt? Sometimes. There was one time I felt really guilty, and that was because I started feeling an attachment to the woman I was with. Once that started, I had to stop seeing her.

I get tested every six months as a result. I honestly think, if she found out, my wife would be more annoyed that I was spending money over having sex with somebody else. I don’t do it often, but it’s not something I think I’d be able to go without. It’s just a fantastical indulgence now or then, and it doesn’t hurt anyone.” — Craig, 51.

  • Some Men do it to Respect their Wives

It's ironic, but Connor, a thirty-seven-year-old married man, says on Your Tango, "When I go see sex workers, I know exactly why I am there. I want them to do the things I would never ask my wife and the mother of my children to do. I respect my wife too much to ask her to do anal or let me dominate her, for example. So I pay someone to let me do these things."

  • Some do it for a Long Lasting Marriage

Lawrence, 45 and quoted on  SheSaid says, “I’ve been married for twenty years. But I am a highly sexual man, married to a woman who really doesn’t enjoy sex, or even hugging, kissing and so on.

She’s an excellent partner and in every other way we got on like a house on fire, but just not in bed. So I put as much money aside as I can, so I can buy sex.

I want to hang on to my marriage, and so right as much as I can by my wife, so the obvious thing is to pay for sex.”

  • For some, it's Just a Good Old Bad Habit

Fifty-two-year-old Rod tells Your Tango, “I am happily married, but I have been paying for sex long before I met and married my wife.

In my marriage, sex lacks a bit of excitement. Maybe I’m spoilt from seeing sex workers previously. They are in the business of sex so it is generally really good. My wife just isn’t as good in bed as some of the women I’ve paid before.

I lead a double life. My wife, family, and friends don’t know I pay for sex regularly. I don’t think they would like to think that I was getting involved in visiting working girls for sex because it’s not the thing that a respectable person does, to be honest.”


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