How Transgender Dad Found The Courage To Transition
In a news report, a transgender dad of two said he got the got the courage to transition to a man after witnessing his stepdaughter come out as a boy.
Spencer Hanson is a 36-year-old soccer coach who was raised in a conservative Christian family as a girl even though he always knew he wasn’t a female.
Although the term ‘transgender’ wasn’t something he was in his 20s, Spencer came out to everyone as gay at 19. In 2008, Spencer married Jess Hanson, now 42.
In his younger years, Spencer hated feminine clothes, played sports, and was 100 percent sure he wasn’t a girl.
His partner Jess had two kids from a previous relationship, and together they had had a son and daughter after Spencer got pregnant with the help of a sperm donor.
All through his first pregnancy with his first daughter – affectionately nicknamed bug – he constantly battled with gender dysmorphia but he worried that his loved ones would be ashamed of him if he came out as a transsexual.
It was only after his stepdaughter Bub announced at age nine that she was a boy and not a girl that Spencer got the courage to start his own transition process.
According to him, the process of starting a child on hormone blockers and putting them in therapy gave him the strength he needed to start transitioning.
After giving birth to his second son cub, now five, in 2013, and suffering through a miscarriage in 2015, Spencer decided to have a double mastectomy, a hysterectomy and started taking testosterone.
Spencer who runs an Instagram blog known as Becoming Dad decided to speak publicly about his journey for the first time ever. He says if not for Bub, he probably wouldn’t be alive.
Meanwhile, his daughter Bub has begun a new journey, the process of ‘de-transitioning’ back to a girl.
Spencer hails from Kansas City, Kansas. He had this to say about his childhood, “I always knew I was 100 percent,not a girl, so when I got pregnant it was super hard and the whole thing gave me so much anxiety.” “Literally no one else on the face of the planet can be pregnant except girls and I did not know how to be pregnant and not be feminine.”
“What kept me from transitioning is I felt like I was completely letting my parents down and I would lose them and my brother and my friends of many years.”
“I don't like making people feel disappointed or ashamed in me.”
“In 2010, I was at Walmart with my little Bub and I was like, ‘Go and pick out some clothes.’ My Bub was crying so I said, ‘What is going on?” and she said, “I can't be ‘birth name’ anymore. I will die.”
I said, “OK, who are you?” She said she was male and told me her ‘new name’ and I said, “OK, Hi ‘name’.”
After that, we started her on hormone blockers, gender therapy, and legally changed her name.
All of Spencer’s journey can be found in this other news report.