Q. While feeling up my new guy, I commented, "You shave your chest hair?" He got upset. Said my tone was inappropriate and jugmental. I told him that his body is perfect, hair or not. That he doesn't have to shave to please me. He's still upset. How can I fix this?

A. While feeling up my new guy, I commented, "You shave your chest hair?" He got upset. Said my tone was inappropriate and jugmental. I told him that his body is perfect, hair or not. That he doesn't have to shave to please me. He's still upset. How can I fix this?

A.  A lot of men want hairless chests, so they shave their chest BUT then naively assume that you're not going to ask them about it. As if somehow the Swedish No-Hair Fairy came to them at night and plucked each follicle while they snored away.

Men like yours are caught between thinking they look sexier with a smooth torso and being completely ashamed/ embarrassed by the fact that they spend time in the bathroom shearing themselves like a sheep in spring time.

Guys, you can't have it both ways.

He snapped at you and is hurt because he can't tolerate you knowing him to be a chest shaver. Ultimately, that's his issue not yours. I don't know what your tone was when you said, "You shave your chest hair?" but I'm guessing it was the content not the decibels that crushed him.

As such, there's nothing you did wrong or need to backpedal from. Rather, he needs to accept his aesthetic needs weren't gifted by DNA and so he's taken action (and a Norelco buzzer) into his own hands.

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