Being a single parent can be hard at the best of times, but what happens when you have decided that you are ready to date again? You may have successfully mastered the art of play-dating with your children, but what about real dating – the ones where you have a fulfilling relationship, (or at least attempt to) with a person of your own age?
Hopefully, these helpful hints and tips will give you a good kick-start in the right direction, and hopefully will find you long lasting love too!
1. It is wise to remember that unlike other daters; those that do not have children, you have responsibilities. This means that you must be looking for someone that either has kids themselves, or at least is open to the idea of dating someone with kids, and in turn for you means that you must be honest about your situation. It can be easy to think that if you just omit them from your dating profile, you are more likely to get dates, but in the long run this is probably going to achieve nothing except a lot of rejection and disappointment when the person that you are dating realizes that you do indeed, have children!
2. Sticking on the same theme – most online dating websites have places where you can specify that you have children and you should fill these in honestly. You don’t have to put their names, ages, or any other personal information that you possibly don’t want complete strangers to know, but at the same time, it is wise to give an age-range to allow other potential daters to understand your situation. If you have two kids under the age of two, for example, dating is going to be much more hard work than dating when you have just the one child that is almost 15 years old and old enough to take care of his or herself.
3. You are still a person in your own right, and it is wise to remember this. Yes you have responsibilities with your children, but this does not mean that you aren’t deserving of a life away from them. It is not your fault that you ended up in a position where you are a single mother, and from time to time, it is expected that you need to have a little fun, and that you have needs too! Be honest to yourself and figure out what it is that you are really looking for – is it a short term fling just to get some sexual tension out the way, or are you looking for your next big love story? You can’t be sure of what kind of person or relationship you are looking for if you haven’t already answered the questions yourself.
So there you have it; the single Mother’s guide to dating. Good luck in your quest, and as long as you are honest and true to yourself, you will soon find a happy relationship that is both long and fulfilling!