Q.  A woman said some horribly racist remarks directly to me at a baseball game (i'm mid eastern), and my boyfriend just sat there (he's white) didn't even bother standing up for me even though I was very upset, hurt and crying. He hates conflict, but would it have killed him to tell that lady to just leave me alone firmly?

A.  Yeah, he committed a serious boyfriend fail. Standing up for you is part of his duty. Unfortunately we live in a world where stupid people may say things to you. It's his job to stand up to have your back. 

Yes, as we have discussed many times, you should also stand up for yourself. Don't just hide behind boyfriend and take the woman's remarks. That said, this isn't someone cutting you in line at the Starbucks -- this woman was saying hateful things about you. Presumably he was bothered by this as well, right? It must have bothered him to see you crying. Not liking conflict is  not wanting to argue with the rude DMV employee. This is the sign of a guy who doesn't care enough to stand up for you. All he had to do was tell the woman to back off. If she kept harassing you, get security. But sitting back and doing nothing is pretty weak. 

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