The first step that couples usually do when a marriage is no longer functional is to seek help from a counsellor. For counselling to be truly effective, it can be quite challenging moneywise. However, there are methods you can repair your unhappy marriage without going bankrupt.

1. Communicate. Do not presume that your partner knows what you are thinking and feeling. You have to tell your spouse what your worries are if you want him to better understand what is causing the problem. You can't help fix your marriage if you keep disregarding and shrugging problems off.

2. Have a conversation about the things that are working and those that are not. Do not expect what should be your spouse's actions, or you will only end up getting thwarted. It is important that you have a sober talk about what's distressing your union. The source of the problem should be discussed, as well as the ways you can use to solve it. As much as possible, aim for the solution and avoid getting too focused on the dilemma.

3. Avow the love you have for each other. There are many ways to make your love felt which can save your union. Going out on dates or just spending quality time together, assuring your spouse of your love, or giving out simple tokens of love are a few things you can do.

4. Give each other some distance and time. To comprehend the value of your marriage, it is better to occasionally give your partner some time apart from you. You do not have to go somewhere for this to pass. Sometimes just taking a week's vacation or allowing your spouse to decompress fully after work is adequate.

Mending a difficult marriage even with a indecisive and uncertain mate can still be accomplished if you communicate and commit to the goal.

5. Take the risk. Change your conduct. Act and speak nicely even when your spouse is ill-mannered to you. Show him love at times when it may be trying. You will risk him not returning your love but at least he will know that you are devoted to saving your marriage.

6. Avoid being judgemental. Try to avert censuring and judging your spouse especially during these times because they won't help your situation. Instead of disapproving, try to admire and compliment your significant other. Even if he is unhesitant to salvage your marriage, these changes may just change his mind.

7. Show your appreciation. With every thing that he does, keep in mind that you should be grateful and tell him you appreciate him. Seeing the good things about your husband will make it easier to let them join in mending your marriage.

Marriage counselling can be helpful as it can help you manage marriage issues. But it is still up to you and your spouse if the counselling will become a success. With or without the aid of marriage counselling, if you are both not disposed to work on it, your marriage will not get repaired.

My name is Robyn Lee and I am a dating and relationship trainer to women. I was single for a long time, not because I wasn't a catch, but because I made simple dating mistakes that turned men off. Since then I've learned ways to save a marriage. I share what I have learned with women across the world so they can establish good relationships with guys.