Ah perfection, that nearly unattainable goal! What exactly is the “perfect mate,” and how on earth do you find him? First things first, you must realize that your idea of a perfect mate is far different from your sister’s or your best friend’s. They will look for the smallest character flaw and pounce like jaguars on a wounded wildebeest. Hey, don’t look at me! I did not make the rules on this one, it’s just what happens! Your friends and family want you to be happy so they will weed out the weak ones to make that happen.

You have to know what you want and what you need from your relationship. Then you can decide what defines the word perfect for your. For instance my definition always includes the words: smart, funny, adventurous and kind. You might notice that my perfect mate is not defined in physical terms. My tastes in that have changed over the years, but the really important qualities have never wavered at all. Call me crazy, but I will take a smart and funny insurance agent over a handsome, vapid barely employed actor any day of the week. My definition of perfect does not work for my best friend, nor does hers work for me.

One of the easiest ways to know if someone is your perfect mate is to actually spend time with them. Explore shared activities of common interests, and see how well you relate to each other. Make sure that you have interests both mutual and individual. You do not want to wake up one morning and find that you have absolutely nothing in common with the person that you declared was your perfect mate. On the other hand, you will want to have interests outside the relationship as well. No one is so perfect that you want to spend every single moment with them after all. Give yourself a chance to miss that person every now and then to keep things fresh between you.

Most importantly: do not pretend to be someone that you are not to “get” this perfect mate. They deserve their perfect mate as well, and if you are pretending to be someone other than who you are, how will they know if you perfect or not?

Don’t pretend to be a sports fan to snare that athlete that you have had your eye on and expect to make a lasting relationship with him. For one thing, if you are really not into sports, you have just kicked things off with a big lie. Not only will that make him question everything else about the relationship, it will make him rethink his own priorities. Do you really envision a life of faking enthusiasm when sports does nothing more than bore and bewilder you? Or are you planning on sitting sporting events for the rest of your lives together, content to go out and do your own thing? That might be an awful lot of time spent apart, is that really what you want for the rest of your life?

Your perfect mate can be the last person on earth you would have dreamed of. It could be the living version of your fantasy. Either way, it has to be the person that is perfect for you and you alone. Make sure that it is the perfect mate for the real you, and not someone who is attracted by a manufactured image that you cannot maintain for a lifetime.

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